08 December 2013

The Single Life

Dating is terrible.  And it's hard.  And tiring.  Don't get me wrong.  I love my life.  I've traveled all over the US.  I've lived in a lot of great places.  I have friends and a wonderful family.  I have a job that I really like (it's brand new, so I think it would be disingenuous to say "love").  I have a great apartment, family and friends nearby, and two sweet rescue kitties.  I'm about to finish my doctorate degree.  I have a lot to be thankful for.

I would still like to meet someone though.  And before you all jump in and say, "just wait, it'll happen in time".  Please know that I have been waiting for over a decade.  I think that's long enough to reasonably discredit that sentiment.  It doesn't always happen in time.  I've tried online dating with little to no success.  More recently I attended a match.com event.  This was actually kind of fun.  I met some nice people, painted a picture, had some wine.  I didn't meet anyone specifically at that event, but I'd definitely do it again to meet more people.  I've had less luck online only.  It's not that I don't reach out.  I'm not just waiting for guys to contact me.  The ones that do contact me do not at all meet any of the parameters I set in my profile.  I'm not being overly picky either - I promise.  The few parameters I do have - they don't meet them.  Or there are the ones like the guy who emailed me tonight who basically wanted a random hook-up.  Yeah, no.  Not going to happen.  I've had friends set me up - that hasn't really worked out either.

I will say, I can look at the bright side.  I know that I don't want to have kids so my biological clock isn't ticking and I'm staring down the barrel of the end of my child-bearing years.  I do think that my not wanting kids is limiting my dating options.  It eliminates the ones who don't have kids and definitely want them.  

There are things I'd like to do though and not be single when I do them.  I'd like to travel to Hawaii in 2014.  A gift to myself - for the weight loss and for the doctorate.  But I'd rather not go alone. 

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